I mean that question in both the general sense and also in my personal situation.
Speaking generally: Are there advantages to learning the dating version of Game if you're already in a long-term relationship? Or would that just be reinventing the wheel, since Athol has already done the heavy lifting of deconstructing it and applying it to marriage? I would tend to think that it could increase the preselection effect and improve confidence to know that you have options if it does come to the ultimatum stage. On the other hand, we already have a thread about the dangers of learning these new superpowers; I imagine that temptation can only be more dangerous if you know exactly how to apply them to women you're not married to.
In my own personal situation:
I've told my story at some length in the Phase 4 thread and also on my own blog. Long story short, I want kids, she doesn't, we're trying to find a middle ground, if there is one. The idea of pregnancy gives her the heeby-jeebies (not without reason; she has medical problems that would make it extra difficult but not impossible for her); she's more open to the idea of adoption. It's something she's apparently always considered doing, just not in the sort of serious way that involves timetables but in a vague "yeah, I could see myself doing that" way. That wouldn't be my first choice, but it's a compromise I might consider if it gets me the rest of what I want (which is to say, a timetable and a serious "this is something that is going to be part of our future together" commitment). We're going to start counseling soon. Might be a waste of time, but what the heck, it's our time to waste.
I'm trying to educate and prepare myself for all possible futures: bio-kids with her, adoption with her, going back on the dating scene and trying to find a partner for bio-kids down the line.
A big part of that last option, if that's what it comes to, would be learning dating Game so that I can approach looking for a partner in a much more systematic and effective way than I did the last time around. Am I jumping the gun by starting to look into that now, or is it something that should probably wait until I have a better idea of which way things are going?
On the one hand, there's a difference between knowing, "Well, if it all goes south, here are the books I'd read to get my dating Game right" and having the confidence of KNOWING that I have the skills I'd need to succeed at it. I'd sort of like to have that confidence, even if it turns out I never need those skills.
On the other hand, since running the MAP I already pull a fair bit more female attention than I did before. When the cute clerk flirts with me at the grocery store, I sort of prefer thinking, "Yeah, if I were single and working on my Game I could probably have hit that," to knowing, "Man, all I had to do was say X and I could have hit that." That's a lot of temptation to deal with, even for a fine morally upstanding pillar of manhood such as myself. (-:
Bah. Now I'm just talking in circles. (-: What do you think? Am I putting the cart before the horse?