My wife has lost about 25 pounds, has spent thousands improving her clothes, started wearing better makeup about two years ago, she has incredible muscle tone and still has the intelligence, toughness, and ethics that I married her for.
I am just now starting to realize that society in general is finding her HOT. I missed the memo. I am still seeing her as awkward, grumpily dressed, pudgy, and plain. These damn wife goggles are telling me, well you're attracted to her of course -- she sleeps with you. But that's apparently stupid.
I thought I was +2 SR on her. I think looks wise we are even in appearance SR. I better up my mate guarding, AMOG behaviors when with her work peers, and possibly add a little dread -- not hard to do when you work at a college.
I am just so surprised that I missed the transformation. I saw her getting more awesome, but I missed the guys at the gym checking out her ass, my friends drooling at her, and the general glances we get in public.
Anybody else have this happen to them regarding their spouse?
It's good beta.